Becoming Available to Yourself First: A Soulful Reminder for the Overdoers

If you’re anything like me (hi, fellow over-giver ), you know exactly what it feels like to be completely available for everyone else. You plan the family gatherings, jump in to help before anyone even asks, and say yes when every fiber of your being is whispering, “Actually… I’d rather stay home tonight.”

Sound familiar?

Yeah. Me too.

The thing is — when we live in that space of constant doing for others, we quietly become unavailable for ourselves.

We start losing touch with who we are, what we love, and what actually fills us up. That spark that once made us feel alive gets buried under to-do lists and everyone else’s expectations.

And before long, we’re running on autopilot — following stories, ideas, and obligations that have nothing to do with our own joy or alignment.

The Cost of Being “Always Available”

When we ignore our needs long enough, something subtle (but powerful) happens — we become numb. Numb to our creativity. Numb to our excitement. Numb to our truth.

We build invisible walls around the very energy that makes us us.

And while being there for others is beautiful (truly, it’s part of our nature as caregivers, friends, parents, and nurses), there’s a balance we’ve got to remember:

We can’t be fully present for others when we’ve abandoned ourselves.

Making Yourself Available to You

So, here’s my gentle challenge for you (and for me):Start making yourself available to you first.

Even in the smallest ways — Say no without guilt. Take that solo walk. Sit in silence for five minutes before saying yes to something new.

Because when you do that, your energy expands. You begin showing up for others from love, not depletion. From fullness, not fatigue.

And that’s when everything changes.

Need a Little Guidance?

If this message hit you right in the gut ( same), maybe it’s time to reclaim a little space for you.

I’m offering a free hour of intuitive coaching, (just click the underlined section) this week — no BS, no strings attached. Just clarity, compassion, and a good dose of humor.

Because learning to make yourself available to you isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.

See you on the flipside, friend?