My Story
Growing up with an abusive father did not lend safety with men as I got older. I would seek out what I received as a child. When I became a mother, I started to understand my triggers with safety more. I did not want my children to ever have to experience what I went through as a child. I wanted them to feel safe.
Through coaching, therapy, and somatic practices, I found out that my triggers consisted of things that I would see or hear prior to the incidence of the physical abuse that would occur. I also found out that my husband provides me with the most loving safety I have ever felt. Simply hugging him and laying my head on his chest provides this for me. That's why we need to know what our triggers are; so, we can find our peace and safety within them.
How to Overcome Triggers and Find Inner Peace: A Guide to Healthy Emotional Healing
There’s nothing quite like an unexpected trigger to derail your day. It could be a word, a situation, or even a fleeting moment that suddenly sends your mind, body, and spirit into a whirlwind of painful memories—whether it's trauma, loss, hurt, or something else deeply ingrained in your past. The truth is triggers don’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you are, or what you’re doing—they can hit at any time, affecting your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
But here’s the good news: You have the power to manage your triggers, understand why they happen, and move through them in a healthy way. This isn’t an easy task, but it is essential for growth and maintaining a positive mindset.
What Are Triggers and How Do They Affect Us?
A trigger is an emotional response that is triggered by something from our past. It could be a painful memory or unresolved trauma that resurfaces when we encounter a situation similar to the original experience. Our body reacts to these triggers in different ways, often causing feelings of fear, anxiety, anger, or sadness.
How you react to a trigger depends on many factors, including your past experiences, your mental state, and your coping mechanisms. The key takeaway here is that our triggers are our responsibility. It is up to us to recognize them, understand them, and find healthy ways to cope with them—so they don’t control us.
The Importance of Owning Your Triggers
Taking responsibility for our triggers isn’t about blaming ourselves. It’s about empowerment. When we take ownership of our emotional responses, we reclaim our power and ability to navigate through life's challenges. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by triggers, but the more we learn about them, the more we can work with them in a healthy way.
Steps to Handle Triggers and Find Healing
Identify the Trigger The first step in managing a trigger is recognizing it. What caused the emotional reaction? What memories or feelings did it bring up? By identifying the trigger, you can begin to understand why it affects you and how you can deal with it moving forward.
Sit With the Trigger Once you’ve identified the trigger, it’s important to allow your body to process it. Don’t ignore it or push it away. Many of us have a tendency to avoid uncomfortable emotions, but avoidance only prolongs the healing process. Instead, sit with your feelings, even if they’re uncomfortable. Acknowledge them and allow your mind and body the time it needs to release the intensity.
Don’t Shove It Under the Rug It can be tempting to push emotions aside, but unresolved emotions only build up and affect your well-being in the long run. Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling. This is a critical part of emotional healing.
Love Yourself Through It When you’re facing a trigger, give yourself the grace and kindness you deserve. It’s easy to fall into self-criticism or shame, but remember, you are human. You deserve love and compassion, especially during moments of emotional distress. Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend.
Seek Support You don’t have to face your triggers alone. Find support from friends, family, or a therapist who can help guide you through the healing process. Sometimes, talking about your triggers with someone you trust can help you gain a new perspective and find peace.
Focus on the Future Once you’ve processed the trigger, remember that tomorrow is a new day. You are not defined by your triggers or your past. Every day offers an opportunity for growth and healing. Trust that you will emerge stronger and more resilient with each challenge you face.
Don’t Let Your Triggers Consume You
Triggers are part of the human experience, and while they can be painful, they do not have to control your life. By understanding your triggers and learning how to process them in a healthy way, you can regain your sense of inner peace and emotional balance.
Remember, you are deserving of peace, happiness, and healing. Your journey may not be easy, but it’s worth it. When you take the time to face your triggers head-on, you’ll find that your body and mind will thank you for it. You have the strength to move through this and create a life filled with peace and resilience.
Comentarios